How Coaching Works
- Are you wondering how coaching works and if it would work for you?
- Why use a coach when you can work out your problems yourself?
- What happens when you ‘get coached’?
- What can you expect from your coach and what do they expect from you?
How Coaching Works and Is Coaching For You?
First of all, life coaching is not counselling. Nor is it teaching, training or directing you to change your life.
A life coach works with someone to help them find clarity in their situation. They work with a client to speed up the process of personal change. And they look to help the client make this change permanent and lasting.
Human nature means you often blindside yourself to your failings. Ingrained belief systems can hold you back. Fear can be a big limiter. You find excuses to stay in a comfort zone. And you fail to recognise your limited perspective. No matter how hard you try you cannot see the issue. So you don’t detach from what is blocking you from moving forward. You may ignore the problem or find excuses to justify your behaviours and responses.
You may have spent some time trying to get the bottom of some personal dissatisfaction. It is possible you may have made some change and felt some success. But then you drifted back to previous habits. Or you found the improvement was temporary.
Do you feel unhappy about some aspect of your life? Do you know what you need to do or are you struggling to find the courage or self-confidence to act?
You may feel your life is terrible but with a shift in your perspective, you can learn to see what is good too.
If this is you then a life coach can help. A life coach can help you gain clarity about yourself and your situation.
If you are willing to be open the coach will guide you to explore different angles and viewpoints. To challenge yourself. To push through your personal blocks.
If you feel that change does not happen fast enough or you are going round in circles then coaching will help you.
What About Self-Development?
Within this site, you will find many articles based on coaching and self-development. I use both coaching and self-development for myself. Coaching is great for when I hit a block. Self-development works for me when I am clear about my issues.
Results you want will come from you making the right choices and taking the right actions. A coach is a companion on your journey through change. Giving guidance and signposting when needed. If you know what the issue is and how to deal with it you can work without a coach. How coaching works is when you find yourself going round in circles or struggling to progress.
Whatever stage you are at on your personal journey, coaching is a tool to help you when you get stuck or blocked.
The Coaching Process
The coach will use many tools during the coaching process.
What is your vision of a better life? Where do your priorities lie and are you giving them the appropriate attention?
The coach guides you through the process to clarify your real priorities. They will use listening and reflection to help you.
You agree on your goals and how you will achieve them.
The coach does not dictate what is right for you. You decide on your final outcomes. You have ownership of your personal destination.
The coach will push you to accept the reality of your situation and any limitations. These may be real or imaginary.
You will explore all the options that are open to you. What is stopping you? And what do you need to do?
Your coach is your guide, your fan base, your supporter. Ready to help you back up and get going again should you slip off course. But never to dictate your actions or make choices for you. You own your plan and the journey.
Coaching can give you an opportunity to get results faster. If you commit yourself to take action you will achieve change. Working with a coach can help you move more directly towards your long term goals. And with someone supporting you the journey can feel less daunting too.
You are the only person who knows what happiness means to you. Do not expect advice and answers from a life coach.
You may find the process difficult. If you have spent years being unhappy then it may take time to work out what needs to change. You may start with one goal and then find you need to refine it and its action plan too.
This is all part of the journey.
Be open, prepare to suspend preconceptions and beliefs. Be honest with the coach and yourself and commit to changing your life.
But most of all, enjoy it.
Guiding Beliefs and Values
As the founder of Be Can Do Life Coaching I want to help people to become empowered enough to improve their life. There are many people that have helped me on my personal journey and now I want to help you.
Honesty, integrity, fairness and trust are very important to me. These values underline all my working practices. I also am serious about maintaining client confidentiality.
When you’re looking for a coach these days there are a lot to choose from. My coaching has a practical, results-driven focus.
As I am a natural carer (by nature and circumstance) I also have a nurturing, confidence-building approach. I will support you and help you understand where you are holding yourself back. I focus on encouragement but expect you to commit and take the necessary steps to change.
I strive to help you reason things out and focus on reaching the right solution for you. I also believe you should have fun while you work through your life journey.
I hope that gives you a clear idea about how coaching works and could help you and also how I work. If you think this is for you please book a free chat and I will get back to you as soon as possible.