Self worth is often described as a measure of how much you value yourself.
Self worth is often based on your feelings about yourself. Your mood and how you are treated can have an impact.
How attractive or clever you may think you are (or not) or whether you think people like you relates to your self worth. And your view is just that, based on your personal perception. Whatever people tell you, you just don’t believe them.
Can you put a price on your head and turn your self worth into a tangible value?
Are you ‘worth your weight in gold’?
Are you a ‘real diamond’?
Both expressions attempt to put a value on someone – usually by someone else.
Consider the value of a stay at home mum calculated by the time spent in various roles she undertakes. She moves between nurse, teacher, taxi-driver, confidant and housekeeper. Her value can be estimated by how much it would cost to replace these roles with paid staff.
So, what are you worth?
Self Worth – Time to Value Yourself
Why not step away from your self worth valuation and calculate it in real world terms?
First, consider your working value, if you earn money in a job, that is an annual value as a cost to your employer, but also the work you do will relate to the profit your company makes; so already you are adding value to yourself!
If you work for yourself and maybe business isn’t as good, consider either your business’ earning potential, or re-evaluate your business. Perhaps you’ve chosen something where the market is weak or limited? That is not a reflection on your value – but is on your chosen business. Maybe you could reconsider your business idea to be sure you make your time spent working is a valuable commodity.
Personal Value to Others
If you aren’t working are you at home caring for others? This work is important and the financial value put on this is definitely under estimated, but it will give you a starting point.
Moving away from work, think about your relationships – your family, partner, friends and contacts. To each of these you represent some value. When you offer a listening ear you may be acting as a counsellor, other times you may be just a companion. Never underestimate the power and value of just being with people. Think about how much time you spend with others and put a price on it – I suggest you don’t start charging your friends for your time though as you may find your friends fast disappearing!
Increase Your Self Worth – Invest in Yourself
Whatever value you arrived at above you can increase this. We often talk about investing in ourselves when spending money on training or personal development. Adding to your skills through training or gaining experience at work is valid, yet increasing your self worth does not have to cost anything.
By deciding to add value to everything you do and your relationships you will increase your personal value and your sense of self worth. You will feel the pay back in response from others.
But most importantly commit to get fitter, eat healthier, take more responsibility for your behaviour. All these things will improve your feelings about yourself and add value to you as a person.
In spite of all this perhaps you still feel that you have little to offer. Maybe you don’t work at the moment, have few friends and have no dependants. Yet, you can still make changes for the better.
To Give is To Receive
Consider voluntary work or just making little day-to-day efforts.
Imagine smiling at a random stranger as you walk down the street. Think about the positive impact this can have on their day. They feel better, they work better, they’re more cheerful with others. Even this small effort can create a positive effect in the world. You give out and you get that good feeling about yourself. You’re adding value to someone else’s life. By giving you get something to feel good about and confirm your self worth.
And imagine doing bigger and better things. You have a lot to give, we all do. Time to get real and stop listening to those negative voices!